Systemic: the first family session
Four people, one identified patient, and a family that wants you to fix him. What you do in the first twenty minutes decides whether there is a treatment at all.
What you are practising
- 1Decline the identified-patient frame without alienating the family
- 2Join before challenging
- 3Track a sequence circularly
- 4Use circular questioning and enactment
- 5Recognise when safeguarding overrides systemic method
Briefing
Who is in the room
Nadia (46), Ross (49), Kit (16), Iris (12). Nadia made the appointment and has telephoned twice. Kit has not attended school for six weeks and will not say why.
The first decision was made before the session
Convening the whole family rather than seeing Kit alone is already an intervention: it declines the family’s hypothesis before a word is said. Expect to be told, more than once, that you have the wrong people in the room.
The case
The Harkness family
Nadia (46), Ross (49), Kit (16), Iris (12)
Referred over Kit’s school refusal; six weeks of near-total non-attendance.
Read the full case firstThe phases
- 1
Joining
Be accepted before you change anything.
- 2
The sequence
Track it circularly until it returns to the start.
- 3
Enactment
Have them do it rather than describe it.
- 4
What the systemic frame does not cover
Assess Kit individually, with explicit terms.